When deciding what subject to write about today, I checked our website for our least-written about topics. Marriage was one of them and, as the co-founder of this website who is married, I was embarrassed! Why is marriage so hard to talk about? Lately I have been wondering if 'the grass is always greener' because my single friends are unhappy being single and many marriages I know of are falling apart; yet everyone I know who is married would say it may take hard work and effort to keep a happy marriage, but the benefits outweigh the drawbacks.
What does marriage actually mean? Wikipedia (who has an answer for everything) states, "Marriage... is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws." While that's a very black and white statement, it's the truth. My husband and I are legally wed and therefore we have rights and obligations when it comes to our growing, and extended, family that we both uphold. Being the responsible adults we are, we even have a will and testament that would take care of this said family if anything were to happen to us.
Thanks Wiki, but what does marriage mean to me, the human behind the veil? Well, some choice words come to mind: trust, love, and soulmate. I've talked about soulmates before, but I truly believe my husband is mine. He accepts me for all of who I am and encompasses these three words with unwavering faith. He never falters when it comes to the love he shows for our family and me.
To keep this love alive, I've followed some choice advice throughout the years, but wanted to share one of my favorites for love in every area of your lives...
From the book, The Magic, "Day 3: Magical Relationships":
Science is now confirming the wisdom of the great sages of the past, with research studies showing that people who practice gratitude have closer relationships, are more connected to family and friends, and have other people look upon them favorably. But probably the most astounding statistic that has come out of research studies is that for every one complaint about another person, whether in thought or word, there have to be ten blessings for the relationship to flourish. Any less than ten blessings for every one complaint and the relationship will deteriorate, and, if the relationship is a marriage, it will most likely end in divorce.
Whenever I have gratitude for anything or anyone in my life, I automatically feel better. Knowing that it takes work to keep this love alive because ONE complaint about another person/thing requires ten blessings for the relationship to flourish is a little daunting, but doable.
This gratitude can come in the form of loving your body, your mind, your mother, brother, your pet, your marriage or anything you have in your life. Start appreciating all that is around you and I promise more of the good stuff will come.