Peter was a 40-year-old computer programmer who hated his job and had a passion for race-car driving. He spent so much time at the race track that his marriage was in trouble. His doctor prescribed anti-depressants and sent him to me for career counseling. Peter's story was unforgettable.
One night when Peter was 13, his 16-year-old sister woke him up. "Mom and dad have gone out. Get in the back seat of the car and shut up," she whispered. "We're going for a ride."
Peter followed her into the family car and fell asleep in the back seat. He woke up hours later in the darkness, in a ditch, unable to find his sister. She was pinned under the car and died instantly. That moment changed his life forever. His parents divorced, his father became an alcoholic, and "no one ever spoke about the accident. In fact, no one ever spoke at all," he remembered. Peter became an outcast in high school and learned to bottle up his feelings. "Have a stiff upper lip and carry on," was his father's only advice.
As my client, he explored this memory and realized that each time he raced a car at 80 miles an hour around a race track he was healing a childhood wound. He was reliving and re-programming the event that had destroyed his childhood. He was taking control of his greatest pain - the loss of his sister and family. He also recognized that teaching someone else how to navigate a speeding car was a profoundly healing experience for him.
By facing his pain, Peter gave himself permission to pursue a career as a race car driving instructor and a race car service and repair shop owner. By honestly sharing his insights with his wife and daughter, he rallied their support for his new direction. He found renewed intimacy in his marriage, and gave himself permission to pursue work that he loved.
This brings me to the most powerful truth I know about meaningful work: Your pain is your greatest ally for finding work you love. Consider the possibility that you chose (consciously or unconsciously) every job you've had in your lifetime because it was healing you.
Hundreds of my clients have proven this to be true. From observing their experiences and studying the biographies of successful people, I am 100% SURE that our pain guides us to our true work; and that our true work heals our greatest pain.
How? Our work heals us by letting us offer to the world exactly what we need to heal ourselves. By facing our pain, we turn it into energy. It becomes our ally and moves us forward. Ask yourself what pain needs healing now? Let that answer guide you to work you love.
INTENTION: The more pain you feel, the more energy you have to launch your new career. See the pain as fuel - not as something that stops you from moving forward.
"There is no coming to consciousness without pain." Carl Jung
Career Intuitive Sue Frederick’s work has been featured in The New York Times, Woman’s World, Yoga Journal, New York Metro and many more. Combining a unique gift of powerful intuition and practical career know-how, Sue has been a guest on more than 200 radio shows and numerous TV shows including Bridging Heaven & Earth. Sue’s best-selling book – I See Your Dream Job: A Career Intuitive Shows You How To Discover What You Were Put On Earth To Do published by St. Martin’s Press, has changed the lives of thousands of people around the world since its publication in September 2009. Her recent books I See Your Soul Mate & Bridges to Heaven: True Stories of Loved Ones on the Other Side became instant Amazon best-sellers.
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